I’m just going to come right out and admit it. Finding balance for me is more often than not, quite difficult. I’m either going 100 miles an hour or I’m standing still. It’s the in between where I always feel a little lost.
When I was a full time traveller, I never had too many problems with finding balance, I always seemed to find enough time to do all of the things I wanted to do and I never felt overwhelmed. However, since coming home to the city, working in a regular job, setting up a business, hanging out with friends and spending time with family, moving house, going to courses, practicing yoga, and still trying to do all of my previous hobbies, it’s safe to say, I have started to feel a little defeated.
So it’s time to take a step back, assess my situation, make some important decisions and start moving in the direction of a happy and balanced life.
Practicing yoga has definitely enriched my life in so many ways. I feel like since discovering yoga, I am becoming the person I was always meant to be and I’m excited to see how my life will continually evolve. And since yoga is a complete lifestyle/philosophy rather than something you just do, I’m going to approach my goal of achieving balance in my life the same way I would achieve a balance posture during my asana practice.
Balance in life = Balance asana… And vice versa
First I would decide on which balance posture I want to focus on and practice and the reasons why.
When translating this to my life, I would decide on which areas in my life I need more balance in, I would then decide on which area to work on first, only one at a time to avoid overwhelm. And I would explore the reasons why I am prioritising that particular area just so I can confirm that it is the right area to be focusing on. I would assess whether I am putting too much pressure on myself and ask myself if I have I set a realistic goal.
Find your focus
I would then prepare to move into my balance posture. Find my drishti or my focal point, breathe deeply, bring total awareness into my body and become fully present in that moment.
Then, I would consciously move into the balance posture. I would take my time, activate my entire being, feel each part of my body as I move into position, focus on alignment, soften the features of my face and release tension from my jaw and shoulders, continue to focus and breathe.
Conscious and intentional movement
As I am practicing to achieve balance in my chosen life area, it is important that I move and act consciously and with intention. I very often try to build Rome in one day and almost every time, Rome has crumbled to the ground. I don’t need to rush, I don’t need to get stressed. I do need to be organised and efficient. I do need to be patient and kind to myself.
Once I have settled into the balance posture, I know that my work has only just begun. There is a saying going around – ‘The pose begins when you want to get out of it’. Now is the time to ground down into the Earth, feel the energy rising up from the base of my spine, breathe deeply and consciously into my belly, maintain my focus and embrace the peace and stillness that arrives in my heart.
Put in the hard yards
Just because I may have achieved balance in the area I was working towards, doesn’t mean that the work has finished. In fact it really has only just begun. Now is the time to put in the hard yards and continue to practice this balance. Fortify my practice and turn this achievement into second nature.
When you are in a balance posture, you literally can’t think about anything else, the moment that you lose complete concentration and focus on what you are doing, you almost certainly begin to wobble and quite often fall out of the posture. It requires you to be fully present in that moment, it requires you to give all of your attention to that goal, it requires you to be strong, have faith in yourself and have a positive outlook.
Patience and self love
Last but not least, throughout all of this, I am aware that I am only human and that finding that sweet spot in my balance posture or finding balance in my life may not happen straight away. I may not be physically strong enough yet, I may become easily distracted, I may be setting myself a goal that is unrealistic. But with daily practice, patience with myself, acceptance of myself and love in my heart, I know I will achieve my goal and I will probably surprise myself at how quickly I will achieve my goal
Yoga does not ask you to be more than you are but it does ask you to be all that you are.
Love Kat xx